by Toria Peters | Dec 5, 2020 | Life Coaching
Finding a moment of calm can be difficult when you are dealing with illness, money worries, conflict or too many demands. Those circumstances matter. You do not have to decide that happiness comes entirely from your attitude or that a difficult day means you are...
by Toria Peters | Nov 28, 2020 | Life Coaching
Making yourself a priority can mean giving your needs a place in everyday decisions: when you rest, what you agree to, how you ask for help and which interests you keep room for. It does not require loving yourself more than everyone else or feeling confident all the...
by Toria Peters | Nov 13, 2020 | Life Coaching
Time alone can feel restful, uncomfortable, welcome or unwanted. You may enjoy it on one day and want more company on another. There is no requirement to become completely self-sufficient or to prove that you never need another person. Practical help, care and...
by Toria Peters | Nov 12, 2020 | Life Coaching
Worrying that you have been manipulative is a reason to look carefully at what happened. Having a preference, asking for help or needing time to think does not automatically mean you are controlling someone. A more useful question is whether your actions leave the...
by Toria Peters | Nov 1, 2020 | Relationships and the Five Elements Philosophy
Some conversations leave you tired, tense or with little room to speak. “Energy vampire” is a phrase people sometimes use for that experience. You can take the feeling seriously while looking at the specific interaction, your current capacity and the limits you want...
by Toria Peters | Oct 26, 2020 | Life Coaching
“I feel broken” can be a way of describing grief, exhaustion, rejection or pain that is difficult to put into words. It does not establish that you are defective or that you need to fall apart before you deserve care. You can start with what would help you get through...
by Toria Peters | Oct 24, 2020 | Relationships and the Five Elements Philosophy
Enjoying time alone can mean having room to read, rest, think or do something at your own pace. You do not have to turn that preference into a problem, a personality test or proof that you no longer need other people. A useful question is whether the time feels chosen...
by Toria Peters | Oct 2, 2020 | Relationships and the Five Elements Philosophy
When someone does not return your romantic feelings, it can hurt to let go of what you hoped might happen. You cannot choose their feelings for them, and you do not have to make your own feelings disappear on demand. You can choose how you respond, what contact you...
by Toria Peters | Sep 19, 2020 | Life Coaching
Feeling emotionally stuck might mean circling the same worry, struggling to name a feeling or not knowing what to do next. You can approach that experience with a little curiosity and a clear stopping point. You do not need to uncover every cause or make yourself...
by Toria Peters | Sep 18, 2020 | Life Coaching
Finding balance can mean making a day more workable: enough space for an important task, a basic need and something that matters to you. It does not require equal time for every part of life or a calm response to everything that happens. Work, caring responsibilities,...
