Aren’t being Your Real You

You might have a problem being the real you everyday because sometimes you have to put on a different face, such as going for a job interview or meeting new people that you have to be overly friendly to.

This doesn’t mean that you should not be as authentic as you can and that most of the time you shouldn’t be the real you.

Life can be scary and being yourself can lead you to being vulnerable. When you are one with yourself and you are doing things on your own, it can let others see who you really are and can open up the possibility of rejection. This can be scary.

This doesn’t mean that being the real you are impossible. You have to become confident and learn to allow yourself to have boundaries. You have to live your journey and make an effort to be the best you can be.

You Make Yourself Cringe

If you are one person that feels weird about things, then you might lay in bed and go over all of the weird things you did that day. Maybe you were not really your real self because you are embarrassed about who you are.


It is normal to feel awkward here and there. You will never always be comfortable fully in your life. Listen to what you hear in your head because everyone has struggles.

Everyone has a hard time being their real self and you aren’t alone.


If you act like someone else and you find that you are resentful, that is why. One thing is that you need to be authentic so that you can say and do what you want in your life. If you tend to act like everyone else, it will catch up to you and you will resent that you act that way.

People Misunderstand You

People will misunderstand you and when you aren’t being your real self, people do not know who you really are.

You might feel that people see you as someone different than what is inside of you and so you need to be real with yourself and others.


Maybe you want to put a show on for others and this might make you feel that you need to escape things such as your social surroundings.

When you are real and who you are meant to be, you will have to spend less time trying to escape your life.

Comfort Zone

People need to learn who they are and if you feel that you can’t do this because people expect you to be something else, you are not being your real self.

If you want something and you do things out of character, you might be worried about what other people think about you. Stop caring what people think and do what you want.

Speaking and Thinking

You might be someone that has to always think twice before you speak because what you blurt out might be the real you.

Make sure you voice your opinions but that you aren’t hurting others along the way.


When you are trying to be someone else, chances are that you want to be perfect, and you feel that you have to be that person.

No one is going to have a perfect life, no matter who you choose to be.

Life Doesn’t Feel Good

When you have things, you want in life you will feel that you are good but when you are always acting like someone else, you will not have a chance to know if you fit in or not.

Letting Yourself Down

It is okay to be nervous and to be stressed. You might have a good idea and be afraid to share it and you always feel like you let yourself down.

When you hide your feelings, and you choose to not be you then you will miss all kinds of opportunities that come your way.

Ask Others for Decision Making

When you aren’t being your real self, you turn to others to make decisions that you should make. Asking for advice is one thing but when you are always wanting others to make decisions for you, you need to step up and listen to what you want and need.

Take Forever to Decide

You might also be one of those people that take forever to decide things. This can be because you are busy or because you have other things that you have to take care of for someone else.

Avoiding Conflict

You might repress what you want to say so that you can please other people or so that you don’t have to face an argument. No one wants to have conflict but if you need to tell someone like it is, do it.

Real You

If people are always calling you things that you aren’t such as thinking you are not approachable or you are snotty, this can mean that you aren’t showing who you really are.

This might be that you are afraid to open up or afraid to offend someone but that is not being your real self.

You Make Yourself Sick

You keep faking yourself through life and you get to the point where you are suffering in your mind and your emotions. It might be time for you to talk to a counselor and tell them what you are feeling.

If you are refusing to live a life based on who you are, you need to speak to someone because this is not healthy. Learn to live an authentic life and to be comfortable with who you are.

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