Have you felt that you had a battle with your children where you have had to argue with them or deal with their never-ending tantrums so that you and your child could both grow, and you could motivate them to have a positive relationship with you and with others?
Children, just like adults, have to have skills and they have to have a positive mindset so that they can live a healthy life. Even though students always make mistakes, just like adults, by building good habits, they can learn to approach life with a positive manner.
Correcting a child in public can cause them to feel shameful or cause them to feel that they are negative, and they are not good enough. Shaming a child at home will also cause them to have negative feelings and it is unhealthy for them.
When They Do Things Right
Instead of always catching your child when they are doing things wrong, always try to catch them when they are doing things right. When you do this, you are not having to correct them, but you are reinforcing their positive behavior.
The more you catch them doing great things, the more you are able to praise them and raise them up and then when you have to correct them for their negative behavior it will not cause them to have emotional problems.
You need to make sure that you use positive words when you talk to your child and the energy will flow through them from where you send it. If you send positive energy, it will fill them with positivity and the same is with negative energy.
Start paying attention to the good things that your child does and point them out. Doing this will build good energy and will make you have a better relationship with them.
Being a parent is never easy but when you are trying to train your child, it can be even harder. Learn to give them power and choice and build them up.
Choices
Stop giving your children ultimatums or threatening to take things away and give them choices. Help them to learn that they can make good choices and that they can be better.
When you give your child ultimatums, you are controlling them, and it will make them feel that you are power hungry. Give them choices so that they can stay in control and make the best choice, and this will help them to appreciate your instructions.
Maybe they will get something done that you asked them but if they have a choice to do it and they make the right choice; it will help them to feel that they did something good.
Allow their opinions to mean something and when they do, they will have a healthy relationship with you. Offer them food choices and offer them which day on the weekend that they want to clean or do their homework.
When you do this, you have a strategy to keep your child happy and to train them to be better people with a positive outlook on life. This will make all the difference in what kind of relationship that you have and if it is positive or negative.
What You Do
Your kids will watch you and learn to behave and act like you act. They will have the same kind of attitude that you have, and they will pick up the same manners that they see.
You might think this is so cute at first until they start showing your negative behaviors. You will have to learn to pay attention to what you are saying at home and how you are acting, or you will see that your children will repeat your behavior. When you make a mistake, admit it, and point it out so that your child sees that you are being responsible.
Do not tell them to stop acting like you but instead change your own mindset and attitude so that you can build confidence and show your child how to act positively. Learn to build their self esteem and to show them excellence in their life.
We can all improve our lives and when we are a model for our children, we will want to be the best role model that we can be.
Making Life Great
There is no one way that you can motivate your child to be better but if you learn to have rewards that are not things, you will see that this kind of reward will be more exciting to your child.
Learn to praise your children when they do something right instead of giving them things. Learn to spend time showing them how good they did and reward them with praise and with attention.
You can give your child something if they have done something that deserves it but if you want to reinforce good behavior then you need to make sure that you are telling them what they are doing right, and you are letting them earn something like being able to pick where you eat out or what you have for dinner.
When you catch your kid doing something right, you need to have a reward ready for them right then. You can give them something like let them stay up a few minutes later or give them something like a pass on their chores.
Conclusion
You will need to have more than just a book to learn how to raise your children because being a parent is not easy. When you look at yourself, you can see where your motivation towards your children has come from.
Have you done your best in lifting them up and showing them how much you love them? Have you taken a positive approach in motivating them and showing them what they mean to you? Be positive and allow your children to follow suit.