People are often looking for someone to love them, but they forget that they need to love themselves first.
Maybe you have been with someone and your relationship started to go sour and you realized that you know nothing about love, and you know nothing about loving who you are.
You might find sadness about your relationship and wonder why it didn’t work out, but the truth is, you need to understand love.
People Loving Us
Maybe you grew up in a family where it was hard for you to feel loved by your parents. If you did feel love, maybe it was unhealthy. Did you have a family that would call you names or embarrass you when you did something wrong? Maybe your parents weren’t around during your successes.
Chances are you grew up in a home with physical punishment and when you did something wrong you would get the belt, or you would get spanked. This may have happened to you when you were disobedient or when you did things wrong.
This could have left you with both physical and emotional scars. When you later chose love, you may have found someone else that was as messed up in love as you were. You knew that love was hard and painful, and you wondered if you could really ever love someone else.
Maybe you have spent your life feeling unloved but here are some ways you can work through that:
Be Kind to Yourself
You need to learn to love yourself and to be kind. Stop being so hard on yourself and learn to say things that help you to feel better.
Feel positive about yourself and focus on the things that you are good at. Stop hating yourself and learn to be gentle and kind with yourself.
Be Loving to Others
Even if others have shown you hate or hurt you, learn to love and be compassionate to others. You can show kindness to everyone you meet, and this will help you to have more love for yourself.
Once you feel love for yourself, you will have peace in your life, and you will be able to interact with others in a healthy way.
Take a Break
Take time to look at yourself and realize that you are not going to be perfect and that no one is ever going to be perfect. You have to learn to love yourself through your flaws and your mistakes.
By being willing to accept that you are not perfect, you will see that you can love yourself and when you mess up, not judging who you are.
Take time to be comfortable with who you are. Stop judging yourself and do not be fearful of things that you cannot change.
Figure out how to be comfortable with who you are. Discover who you are and learn to heal from your past hurts.
If you need to, talk to a therapist to help you or find a friend that you can trust. When you learn to understand what is inside of you, you can realize that your past did not have to be who you are today.
Even if your life is hard, learn to be thankful for what you have. Be thankful for the many blessings that happen in your life each day.
Write down what makes you thankful and write down things that you are thankful for each day or say them out loud.
Take time to help others and volunteer your time to help people around you. When you do this, you will feel better about how you are.
Find small and big things to do that can help your community or someone around you. The more love you give to others the more purpose you will see that you have.
You do not have to worry about being complete, you are whole, and you are amazing. Do what makes you happy and brings love in your life.