Negative patterns are habits and behaviors that hold us back from accomplishing all that we want and make it hard for us to develop and have self-realization. Regardless of who we are or what we do, we all possess them as they are part of everyday life. Our success and well-being depend on us releasing these unproductive patterns, it doesn’t matter who we are. I am going to help you understand why we have bad patterns and how we can use skills to release them.
Negative patterns. Below are a few examples of negative patterns. You may possess some of these:
- Having negative thoughts
- Not paying attention
- Avoiding responsibility
- Blaming and criticizing others
- Agreeing to all assumptions
- Not embracing transformation
- Not valuing yourself
- Complaining
- Overthinking
- Not eating healthy
- Addiction
- Being indecisive
- Lack of self-control
- Withdrawing
- Ineffective communication
- Being disorganized
- Procrastinating
Prepare a list of your negative patterns and be ready to be truthful. You can seek opinions from friends if you want to spot them, but I’d also suggest practicing mindfulness so that you can pay much attention to your thoughts and habits without discriminating or judging them.
Other times these negative patterns are just part of us but we do not want to embrace them and therefore decides to project them to others. Due to this, we need to develop self-acceptance and take responsibility for the bad and the good things in our lives. Mindfulness helps us to accept rather than live in denial.
Why we have negative patterns?
Negative patterns give us feedback on our personal growth and self-development. Instead of seeing them as faults, we can see them as benefits, something we can benefit from.
We can learn through self-awareness how to identify something better for us when we have negative patterns. Just like muscles, our personalities also use resistance to grow.