Everyone wants to be successful, but the truth is that even successful people have had big failures. There are people that are famous such as Michael Jordan who became a famous basketball start but yet he was cut from his team during his sophomore year and other famous people that have become very successful, after their failures.

It isn’t about failing that we have to worry about because failing means you are trying. There is no reason to be ashamed of a failure because this is the necessary part of life that makes you successful. Letting fear of failure holding you back is not a winning situation and you must learn to embrace yourself and accept that failure is possible, just to move on.

If you are one of those people that want to make it in life, you are probably one that has heard many different quotes about being successful and never giving up. Failing is not something that should scare you or make you feel bad, but it is the way that you find success.

Even if you fear failure, you have to realize that with fear comes self-doubt and negativity that will cause you to think others around you are better than you and will cause you not to be able to reach your goals.

Your fears can become reality if you allow them to take over your life. You will see that with fear, you procrastinate more, and you have a harder time reaching your goals.

Instead of making a list of people that have been successful after they have failed, you have to learn inside of yourself what it takes you to overcome your own fear.

The best thing that you can do in your life is to figure out a plan to overcome your fear. You need to stop doubting who you are and realize that you have goals, and you can face your future head on.

Here are some ways to embrace life and take fear head on:

Face Your Fears

Facing your fears is nothing new and we have all heard this. If you are someone that has been in a situation where you have had to face your fear, you know that there is a chance that you will be rejected and that you will have pain and suffering from doing just that.

When you fear being rejected, you realize that this is holding you back. It causes you to feel trapped and to feel that you are protecting your heart by not making a move.

Instead of letting the fear of rejection haunt you, learn to accept rejection. Ask people for things and put yourself out there until you get tough. No matter how many times someone tells you no, ask someone else.

Write down each time you are rejected and the more you face it, the less you will be fearful. Go out and allow people to reject you and you will see that you will no longer have to face a fear of this. You will change the way that you allow your mind to see rejection and you will see that it is just a situation and not a lifestyle.

Worrying about rejection can cause you to miss out on good things in your life, relationships and career. Learn to change your mindset on being rejected and figure out how you can accept rejection as a learning lesson and not a failure.

Learn to be creative with what you have and embrace your inner self. Talk to people, ask people out, do whatever you can and see if life is full of fun or rejection and if it is rejection that you see, embrace it and learn from it.

Make it Real

You have to realize that fear is not just a voice or a doubt. This is something that you have to learn to get over and live with. Allow your fear to come out and see what it has to offer you.

Stop letting worry and fear take over your mind and learn to externalize your fear. If you are always hearing the voice in your head that makes you fearful of failure, talk to it, put a name or a face to it.

Learn to have enough of this and change the way that you see your fear. Go and write yourself a letter and write down your fears and what is holding you back. Let your anxieties come out in your letter.

If you are afraid of looking stupid, write yourself a letter. See how your anxiety looks on paper and see how effective it is when you give it a face.

Once you realize that you are better than your fear, you will see that you have wasted a lot of time being afraid of something that was nothing. You will even find humor in it later.

Put a personification of every fear thing that comes to your mind. When you have thoughts that repeat over and over again, learn to control your thoughts and to not let your fear take over.

When you are full of doubt and fear, put the thoughts in a distance of you. Write down what your thoughts are and see why you are being negative with them.

Ignore Your Fear

You have to let go of your expectations and what you expect others to say about you. Learn to talk to yourself and to put things in your heart.

Love each other and learn to love who you are and stop judging yourself so harshly all the time. Stop comparing who you are to others and be the best that you can be.

If you need to, write down what you are doing that is trying to meet the expectations of others. What ways are you experiencing your life that you are allowing others to control you? What are you doing that meets their needs but isn’t meeting your own needs?

Stop judging who you are and make a conscious decision to ignore your fear and to be the best person that you can be. Learn to ignore the fear and to survive and to focus on what you are doing to live a better life.

Choose to ignore fear and to be productive in your everyday being. Stop being negative with yourself and stop setting your expectations on what other people want.

Take time to drink tea, get up early, spend less time online, write down things that make you stressed and say positive things to yourself. Use positive affirmations and focus on your own list of things that you need to get done.

Never expect to get everything done in one day and know if you don’t that its okay. If you give yourself too much, you will begin to procrastinate, instead, do your list one at a time and be gentle with yourself when you don’t get as much done as you wanted to.

There are so many ways that you can overcome your fear of failure. Learn to embrace it, face it, make it real and even ignore it. If none of these strategies work, find one that works for you and do it until you can move on and have a better life.

People are often looking for someone to love them, but they forget that they need to love themselves first.

Maybe you have been with someone and your relationship started to go sour and you realized that you know nothing about love, and you know nothing about loving who you are.

You might find sadness about your relationship and wonder why it didn’t work out, but the truth is, you need to understand love.

People Loving Us

Maybe you grew up in a family where it was hard for you to feel loved by your parents. If you did feel love, maybe it was unhealthy. Did you have a family that would call you names or embarrass you when you did something wrong? Maybe your parents weren’t around during your successes.

Chances are you grew up in a home with physical punishment and when you did something wrong you would get the belt, or you would get spanked. This may have happened to you when you were disobedient or when you did things wrong.

This could have left you with both physical and emotional scars. When you later chose love, you may have found someone else that was as messed up in love as you were. You knew that love was hard and painful, and you wondered if you could really ever love someone else.

Maybe you have spent your life feeling unloved but here are some ways you can work through that:

Be Kind to Yourself

You need to learn to love yourself and to be kind. Stop being so hard on yourself and learn to say things that help you to feel better.

Feel positive about yourself and focus on the things that you are good at. Stop hating yourself and learn to be gentle and kind with yourself.

Be Loving to Others

Even if others have shown you hate or hurt you, learn to love and be compassionate to others. You can show kindness to everyone you meet, and this will help you to have more love for yourself.

Once you feel love for yourself, you will have peace in your life, and you will be able to interact with others in a healthy way.

Take a Break

Take time to look at yourself and realize that you are not going to be perfect and that no one is ever going to be perfect. You have to learn to love yourself through your flaws and your mistakes.

By being willing to accept that you are not perfect, you will see that you can love yourself and when you mess up, not judging who you are.

Embrace You

Take time to be comfortable with who you are. Stop judging yourself and do not be fearful of things that you cannot change.

Figure out how to be comfortable with who you are. Discover who you are and learn to heal from your past hurts.

If you need to, talk to a therapist to help you or find a friend that you can trust. When you learn to understand what is inside of you, you can realize that your past did not have to be who you are today.

Be Thankful

Even if your life is hard, learn to be thankful for what you have. Be thankful for the many blessings that happen in your life each day.

Write down what makes you thankful and write down things that you are thankful for each day or say them out loud.

Serve Others

Take time to help others and volunteer your time to help people around you. When you do this, you will feel better about how you are.

Find small and big things to do that can help your community or someone around you. The more love you give to others the more purpose you will see that you have.

You do not have to worry about being complete, you are whole, and you are amazing. Do what makes you happy and brings love in your life.

People will sometimes feel like giving up in life, especially when things become hard or overwhelming. When you invest time in a relationship or a goal and you feel that it is not going to work out, you might find that you become sad and discouraged and you want to give up and quit.

Why Do We Do It?

Our brains are made so that when we want to give up, we can do it easily because we expect things should be instant. We do things so that we can have them happen when there is no delay and when we want something to happen, we want it now.

Our brains help to reward us when we get what we want now and this is something that was part of survival, even in the ancient times. When we were not getting what we wanted immediately, it brings about feelings of anxiousness and stress.

Giving up is something that can seem normal and if you have been disappointed because of a failure or a trial, you need to know that you need to keep pushing on.

Giving Up Early

Even though we want things to be given to us now, many people have worked for a long time and failed over and over again and right when they decided to give up, they were able to reach their goals. If they had chosen to give up instead of to keep pushing, they would have never succeeded.

People that own businesses or those that go after a business venture might feel that their ideas are worthless if they don’t work right away, but if they keep pushing, chances are they will see success. Even people such as Walt Disney have had to fail multiple times before his goal was reached.

If you give up now, you might miss out on something great happening to you.

What to Do When You Want to Give Up

There are some things that you can do and ways you can push yourself when you want to give up.

Where it Started

You need to take a minute when you are about to give up and think about the beginning of the project or the relationship or what ever you are trying to achieve and then look at you now. You will see that in the beginning things were easier, but you had to deal with harder things along the way.

If you give up and go back to the beginning, you will miss out on all the fight that you had throughout the situation and where you are now.  Take a minute to recall your purpose and to know what you are meant to be doing.

Why Give Up?

Take time out of your day to figure out why you are so overwhelmed and why you really want to give up. Is it because you are mentally or physically tired? Do you feel that you don’t have enough time for yourself or your family?  Do you not have others that are supporting you or do you feel that you are up against things that you cannot win against?

There are different reasons why people want to give up in life and you need to figure out what your issues are and learn to take care of them. Find out why you are feeling a certain way and learn to handle it before you give up.


Remember that you need to think about what the end result will and keep moving towards it. Don’t stop in the middle and keep going until you win.

Whenever you want to give up, remember how great it will feel when you are victorious in what you are trying to achieve and think about the times you have already fought so hard.


Before you decide to embark on anything, make sure that you have a written-out plan. Make a list or do a chart or draw up a blueprint. Whatever you do, make sure that you have a plan that you can look at when you feel that you are frustrated and done.

Have the plan always in the back of your mind and this will help you to keep pushing forward.


Find people in your life that will support you in what you want to do. Find co-workers or friends that you can talk to or talk to someone online that will help you when you feel like you have had enough.

There are many people that are struggling just like you are and all you have to do is find someone that can help keep you moving forward.


Be thankful for what you have already accomplished. Maybe you have been struggling lately but what about all of the good things that have come to you so far. Be thankful for these things and keep them in the back of your mind.

When you want to give up, make a list of things that you are thankful for and learn to change your thinking on the positive things instead of the negative things. You will see that this will make a difference in your thinking.


No matter how little the accomplishment is, take time to celebrate it. This will help you to feel like reaching further and progressing on in your outcome. You will see that you are working hard, and you are moving on the right path. Keep going until you reach the end.


Make sure that you put motivational quotes on your phone, on your desk or anywhere that you are that you need reminded about not giving up. This will give you a visual and something you can read out loud when you are feeling bad or low.

Remember to always stay motivated and to reach hard without quitting and you will see that you will eventually reach your goal.